i'm still working on calming and patience, but i see clearly how things change when i do. bear was being bear and i was letting bear be bear and treating her every time she looked at me. when we got back home she gobbled her food and water and while i took a leak she climbed into her daybed on the platform in the hall and watched me. i thanked her for the walk and she smiled up at me. she was languid, soft and calm and sweet and i nuzzled her and she kissed me without teeth.