i had a good day with bear and lulu. when i relax and don't try to be the one in control i'm more easy, in the collaborative spirit, and so are the dogs. i have to get it for them to get it and for us. then a-hah, we get it! it's a delight when it happens. 
why do i revert to feeling frustrated and ineffectual at my lack of control when control is not what i really want? regard and respect come naturally when we let ourselves and others be. deep, duggles, deep.
i think about police, what if they were part of the community, and they weren't like an occupying force. what if they helped people solve situations and did good rather than threatening violence continually? what if they worked for us rather than the system of coercion? what if there was community and no ruling class. it's a dream, but anyway, despite the fact of hundreds of years of looting and violent suppression and killing, we still got to dream, we can't help it, we got to help each other dream in reality.