i didn't get a response from daphne's joan. i felt lighter after writing it, but also sadness. i may not get a response. sometimes people let it go without a response. i always want to let it go with some kind of elucidation and understanding. i want it to be thoughtful. when somebody said i wasn't forthright i wonder if they were thinking of themselves. that person did not want elucidation or understanding, but to hurt. it may take a little time to be forthright, but that was always what i wanted and intended to be. 
i would hope that they will forgo and let go of the prong collar they use on daphne, and that daphne will relax and be able to integrate and communicate with the other dogs. i'll do this post and send that wish, since i can't be there to help her.