we have to believe we do our best over time, we have flaws we work with, and we love one another and we want to help each other and help ourselves do our best. over time we can see a continuum we've made together. we've shared a lot of things. we have a relationship, a span of time. we've had hard times and good times. we've had pain and ecstasy. we can feel good and glad even though it's hard and sad and we're scared of ending. though we get scared we can be aware of how lucky we have been and we are.