when i said the people on the point saw copp but not me suzanne replied, You can be hard to spot, whereas Copper is visible a block away.
why am i hard to spot? i was standing next to them. i get how some dogs are more appealing, hence more visible.

i'm the same way, i think. humans are often the background of their dogs. i get it. we all got to serve somebody. it goes back a long way with me though, feeling like a ghost. i just had a dream last night like that, i was in a party with professional photographers and their assistants. the photogs had a separate exclusive party room, and i was like an awkward ghost embodied with the professional assistants. i was in that realm in real life, and i was humiliated. i was a professional nothing, and not even conversational. 
yet i am grateful for the dogs so often for bringing me into the light of conversation, even when i'm muted.