cousin shari asked for pictures. she asked for daily pix of my feet during my terrible affliction. she likes to look at pictures about skin and how it changes and heals. she got me to look more curiously at these things, and not shy away. i realized i took more an active part of the slow healing of my skin by looking and sharing with shari every day. and i realized nothing is inherently gross it's just how we relate. when you relate everything becomes interesting and thrilling when you notice by golly skin is amazing, look! we're healing.