twenty-three days til groundhog day.

boundaries came up twice today, in therapy and then krishna das. in therapy she said i need to have boundaries, and i have thin skin. so the idea of skin again, as protection and connection. my lack of boundaries goes way back to infancy but that's too far back to go all the time. i think i always removed myself from contact, which is not having boundaries, which is being isolate, bound beyond boundary. i have to get the good boundaries now. k.das says having healthy boundaries means opening instead of closing off. and i need to let go of things that upset me, that i can't control. and to not vacate, but to center, when i feel myself about to flee. one thing we can control is how we react to things, but it takes awareness, and work. two things that came up this weekend, little charlie being sent away to indiana—outside my control—here is my boundary. i can walk her but i can't raise her. as for the shooter—there will be homicides and harm—i can tell a friend be careful when you go biking, and then i can let it go, and take care of myself and loved ones here, by cultivating my healthy home boundary, and letting the marauders murderers and mayhem outside go.