woo-hoo! bonkers lulu. she went gagalu over r. it was sweet but i also felt humiliated i couldn't get her to calm down and then i walked away and called her over to poop and she kept running back and circling r. and i felt shamed she wouldn't listen but i realized afterward that she just wanted r. to come with us and she was running circles around her to bring her back by us and r. did come and right away then lulu pooped in the weeds so thoughtfully. anyway, i only have the lulu 5 hours a week. we can only do what i and lulu can do in our brief time. we go by instinct and learn by play. we just want to have some doggone fun and eat some good snacks and hearty food. forsooth me and lulu have come a long way and we can be proud. 
i realized too humiliation is not really about the dog it's just one way the old well of humiliation gets incidentally and somewhat arbitrarily tapped. we can work with that.