if you never knew some one they're not even ghosts to you. who are they who if they didn't exist neither would you? dad never talked about his grandparents and i guess we never met. this is the first time i've seen their graves. i was three when sonia died and wouldn't remember. i was seven when clarence died and i probably would remember. my father's family was a blank space that was behind everything unspoken. i didn't know dad had a brother until dad had left us. ancestry can't retrieve what lies buried beyond memory.