a person who has dementia is a person. not gone. remember them as they are. be in the room when and while you can. don't leave them alone to die. grieve with them, be grateful for their presence, even in the absence. no one should be forgotten. keep them near, keep them present in your memory. this is just something i say into the cloud. some things you can only say into the cloud, and let those things go where they may.