she comes in the bathroom and watches me floss and water floss and brush my teeth, and then she's gone ,and when i come out she's laying by my pillow. what i can't understand is how do fosters let go? i can understand some cats, but this cat? it would feel like denying a gift of providence. it would be like saying she could be anyone's baby, like we, and she, didn't know whose baby she was. of course anyone could be anyone's, right, but no. we have to know when we know.