i think of grief. losing an animal. learning to grieve. what about memory? how do you grieve when you can't remember? when you can't properly grieve you get stuck. i think of people who get lost in grief when their animal dies. it's sad, but it's sadder to get stuck. the animal needs us all the way, and we need the animal beyond the life of the animal so we grieve, and grief's an activity of living. when mister died, and when jasper died, they told me it was alright, to grieve and go on. i read just now in zero at the bone: we know, in psychological terms, time can get stuck in the mind and life of someone who has not learned to properly grieve.