when we learn to use language as boys, we very quickly learn how to conceal ourselves through language. we learn to "master" language so that we can control the world around us...     -victor seidler

then we fall into a trance, in a land of mastery.

estrangement from feelings makes it easier for men to lie because they are often in a trance state, utilizing survival strategies of asserting manhood learned as boys.                -bell hooks