there will be struggle, misunderstanding, then easement, communication. after a clash of wills, reflection, maybe rapprochement, gentler commencement. trouble may come, but each time followed by reflection, understanding growing. 
the clash about caretaking eases now into a more collaborative sustainable mode. i look back at the former post and let it stand. i was hurt and scared. i trust i wasn't mean or lashing out, but trying to work it, in a public journal that may be awkward at times, but is heartfelt and wishing to be good. i realized today i felt squelched as a child and not recognized. when i feel that now, i'm reactive, and the moment opens out pockets of the past when i could not speak or be heard or recognized, and had to find elsewhere, words, animals, images. 
the practical update is we see this the same now, or more similarly, that the dog and i need each other, and the dog needs a human that will be loving and constant, and there i am, as constant as he, and our needs will continue to be mutual, and met, even should the core situation change. i try to be fair and yet i also try to allow my self expression here, even if it is unformed. it's on the way there.
i feel that things now have a rightness, even with the strife and struggle, still things happen as they should, and the people and dogs involved have a common purpose, both in the process of becoming and relating to one another in the world.